Q: Dear Uncle Bobby,

I saw your internet column on Bermuda wired and I had to ask you something that I don’t understand about meeting guys on this rock.

Last week I was hanging out at a certain bar in Hamilton with my girlfriends and came across this guy I used to go to Primary and high school with (I’m 29 years old by the way)… anyway, he offered to buy me a drink and I accepted it even though I normally wouldn’t.

We talked for a good hour; about the good times from our school days and catching up on everybody else we knew and we even talked about our current careers… he works for one of the two banks, I work in a doctor’s office in town (I would describe myself as an independent black woman).

After flirting and making eye contact with him in the company of my friends for an hour, I wrote down my phone number for him, after all I must admit he is very attractive and single at the moment (baby mama drama I think from hi ex)… He even indicated that he had an interest in me and said he would like to get together sometime to further catch up on each other.

My problem is: HE NEVER CALLED ME! Why??? Everything seemed fine at the bar, we seemed to connect he wanted to connect with me… that’s why I gave him my number!

Uncle Bobby please help me. What did I do wrong or is it he changed his mind?
-T. Evans
Hamilton Parish

Dear confused Ms. Evans:

“Exits are everywhere,” as a certain saying reminds us.

It seems as if your reunited friend was simply being a gentleman and polite my accepting your phone number.

You claim he is “single” when, if you already didn’t know, “single” has taken on a new meaning in Bermuda.

I suspect he just was not interested in you and did not have the heart to reject you by saying “I’m not interested” in front of everyone else, perhaps causing a scene to play out or some unwanted emotions.

The truth is, if he was interested in you he would have contacted you and since you said it’s been a week, there is no hope at this point he will call you, in the absence of a reasonable explanation.

You used poor judgment in giving him your number when you were not sure he was on the same page as you.

Men do flirt – it’s our nature. But mere flirting doesn’t mean an interest in starting a relationship or marriage.

Next time, don’t be so fast and jump to conclusions, my dear.

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